“It's a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door. You step onto the road, and if you don't keep your feet, there's no knowing where you might be swept off to.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings
After the initial shock of 'OH MY GOD WERE ENGAGED, WE NEED SO MUCH MONEY', we had a sit down to have a chat about what we wanted our wedding to be. We have always had a similar view on weddings and having been together for such a long time before being engaged, it's something that we've had lots of discussions about. While these hypothetical conversations were fun and definitely inspired us in the initial planning stages, we realised that some things were better left off the drawing board. I mean, who has the money or training to expertly sky dive into a wedding ceremony while singing Queen?
Then we set about trying to think about the general vibe or theme of the day, how we wanted people to feel relaxed and not to worry about the nitty gritty details of how a wedding should or should not go. We've always firmly believed that weddings are a celebration of two people, their love for each other and should be a representation of their philosophies and personalities. Unfortunately, you can't exactly have a wedding ceremony where everyone lies around on beds and beanbags and chills out while watching tv or playing Lord of the Rings based video games. Or can you... hold on we need to make some calls.
A large part of creating our laid back wedding day was the venue. We wanted somewhere that could give us the flexibility to do our own thing and be creative, but still had character and wasn't a complete blank slate. Following on from that we wanted the food for the wedding to be informal, as a couple we have never been fond of sit down fancy meals and thought that there would be no point having this kind of meal presented at our wedding. So we got a freaking chippy. YES.
Then to the guest list, oh boy the joy. There's an entire books worth about who to invite to your wedding and who not, but we both knew we wanted the ceremony to be relatively small with our closest family and friends (small for two people with big families). Working on a guest list can be difficult but again with the flexible approach we are taking to our wedding day, we can have an early reception and start the celebrations with the rest of our invited guests early.
We started with a vision for our wedding day and what we wanted it to represent. Throughout our planning journey there are times when we are really focused on this and know what we are trying to achieve with the decision that we are making. However there are so many approaches to planning your wedding day, so many different ideas and things you can have, that sometimes it's hard not to get carried away or to get hooked on one wee idea and forget the bigger picture. There are times when we get loads done, make a tonne of decisions and work towards our perfect wedding day, then there are times where we aren't moving forward much at all, barely even thinking about the wedding. These gaps or breaks become really handy when we can come back to planning our wedding with fresh perspective and can make sure we're keeping to our shared vision of a laid back wedding where people can relax and enjoy our special day. Otherwise it would be ice sculptures, confetti cannons and complex choreographed dance routines from start to finish.