Holy crap, our wedding is NEXT WEEK!
My post-dated passport is here, I’ve had my final dress fitting, the table plan is off to print and there is a strategic pile of wedding stuff on our sideboard.
But I am EXHAUSTED. My body knows I am on the wind down after a busy summer and it’s hitting me hard. Pass the Berocca.
I’m going to finish my blog series with ten truths about wedding planning.
1. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve said “I need to start exercising more” and “I really need to start eating better” in preparation for wedding dress-dom. I haven’t set foot in a gym since we got engaged and I think I’ve eaten more ice cream and giant buttons in the last fortnight than I have all year. Oh well, he’ll still marry me.
2. Ninety nine percent of weddings are expensive, frivolous and self-indulgent. Go deal. Get the best in your price bracket: you might get hit by a bus tomorrow and you can’t take your money with you. There’s a lot of crap in life, celebrate the good.
3. Budgets are not hard to stick to. Keep on top of your spending and include every little £10 here, £20 there in your costs. Prioritise, do your research and project manage your wedding. ”Project management is the application of processes, methods, knowledge, skills and experience to achieve the project objectives.” Objective – get married.
4. Spreadsheets are a successful way of life.
5. Weddings bring out the worst in people and you may lose a friend or two. Surround yourself with people who are genuinely excited for you and respect that this is your time.
6. Other people just won’t care as much as you do. Apart from maybe your mum. Your mum will care what kind of confetti you buy.
7. The nearer the day gets, the more you will question EVERYTHING. I’ve touched base with all of our suppliers, they’ve all been paid, and they know when and where it is so they’ll turn up… they will.
8. Summing up your boring but equally very fulfilling life is hard when asked. As is writing your own vows.
9. Your wedding is not a well-curated mood board. Put your faith and trust in professionals to create something unique for your day. You’ve hired them for a reason.
10. Love conquers all. When the proverbial hits the fan they’re always there.
Point ten reaffirms that as nice as all the fluffy stuff is, it’s about the marriage and not the wedding. I am way more excited about the prospect of being Robert’s wife than I am about any aspect of our wedding day. Our Humanist asked us what marriage means to us and I found it really hard at the time to put it into words. So I’m going to try again.
Marriage is someone having your back, all the time.
It’s bringing me a cup of coffee in bed in the morning. It’s coming home from work, taking the dog out, making dinner and pouring me a G&T as soon as I take my apron off. It’s watching back-to-back rom coms because I won’t watch anything else. It’s going to Muffin Break on a Sunday afternoon because that’s just what we do.
We believe in the institution of marriage, of becoming our own family unit for our own sakes and the sake of any children we might have. After seven years together and taking on adulthood side by side there’s no niggles or doubts and we’re ready to sign on the dotted line: we’re rooted and to quote UP! “You and me, we’re in a club now.”
The next time we hear from Emma her and Robert will be married and we'll be featuring the big day! Cannot wait to see it. Enjoy your last week of single-dom Emma! You've been an ace blogging bride!
Follow the rest of Emma's wedding journey here.